How To Make Friends Easily: Discover How To Talk To Anyone And Make New Friends, No Matter What Age You Are (Love, Friendship And Money) by Rebecca Collins

Author:Rebecca Collins [Collins, Rebecca]
Language: eng
Format: epub, pdf
Published: 2021-10-02T18:30:00+00:00

Friendships are built when we understand what being a friend means.

Follow the 15 pointers to create strong friendships.

Setting boundaries avoids codependent relationships.

There are ways to establish and maintain healthy friendships.

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Making Friends With The 80/20 Rule

It is not shortage of time that should worry us, but the tendency for the majority of time to be spent in low-quality ways - Richard Koch

I met Jake a few months ago. He was one of those start-up tech geeks who had come to my office to talk me through digital advertising.

He was a really outgoing, chatty guy, who was obviously very passionate about his job and we got talking about where he was from, his background, and so on.

Jake told me that, although he had a lot of friends, work prevented him from hanging out with them as much as he would have liked. He also confessed that some of them didn’t even get in touch with him anymore because he was always turning down their offers to meet up.

It turns out that Jake was spending most of his time building his business and neglecting his friends, leaving him feeling frustrated and desperate to turn things around, although he didn’t know how.

You may have the exact same problem yourself, putting all of your energy into your career, or even your family, leaving no time to invest in your relationships. After a while, you might notice that they stop calling you, don’t message you as often, or aren’t available when you finally have time to meet up with them.

I know how this feels because I’ve also been guilty in the past of getting caught up in the daily work routine and weekend burn-out syndrome. The thing is, people aren’t accessories that we can put on or discard when we feel like it.

We need to give time to any relationship if we want to sustain it, and this applies just as much to friendships as it does to our relationship with a spouse, partner, children, or other family members. So, how exactly do we make the most of our time and commit to nurturing friendships when our work/life balance is heavily out of sync?

One way to approach this, I have found works for me is by using something called the Pareto Principle. It’s an idea named after the Italian economist Vilfredo Pareto, who noticed back in 1895 that about 80% of Italy’s land belonged to 20% of the country’s population.

Since then, the principle has been used mainly in the business world, focusing on the fact that 80% of results or consequences come from 20% of effort or causes. The Pareto Principle is also known as the 80/20 rule, the law of the vital few, or the principle of factor sparsity.

Simply put, all it really means is that 20% of your efforts will probably lead to 80% of your success in many spheres of life. In the context of this book, we are going to look at how using the principle can allow us to nurture and sustain close friendships to the best of our abilities.

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